The Husband is the worst offender of this serial question. Sometimes that man will ask me what's for dinner while we are lying in bed the night before! That drives me bananas.
You'd think I was safe, once I send The Husband off to work and the kids to school. No way! That nagging, annoying question still plagues me. Because here come my girlfriends. They will call me on their way to work or some will pop in on their lunch breaks. Others will just invite themselves over. (One of my girlfriends that lives down the street, once, while she was out exercising, smelled what I was cooking as she ran by the house. She walked in and told me, "Bitch, I don't know what you're cooking, but the air outside your house smells so good, I'm coming back for dinner later!" lol) Fed up and tired of the question themselves but still wondering if somehow I've magically come up with anything new and/or exciting they too will ask "Hey, what are you making for dinner?"
I know my family and friends asking me this seemingly benign question should not irritate me half as much as it does. But I can't seem to shake the annoyance and distress it causes me. Anyone else feel the same way as I do? Because now it's my turn to ask, what are you making for dinner tonight?
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My wife will ask me what I want for dinner, and my response is always the same - food. (I'm not very particular.)
ReplyDeleteBless your heart Alex!
DeleteMy fiancee probably won't be faced with the same issue when we're married. I prepare about 99% of my meals.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lucky girl that Daisy is!
DeleteI hear ya. When they walk in the door, there's no "hi mom, love you mom." It's "What's for dinner?" Surprisingly, I know what I'm making tonight--Korean chicken...yum!
ReplyDeleteOh Korean chicken sounds good Ilima! Sometimes I just flat run out of steam and ambition about what I should make. I get bored with the same old stuff. At least my family doesn't care what it is, as long as I am planning to make it, LOL
DeleteMy family rarely ever asks me that question . . .unless it's 6p.m. and they don't see any food prep taking place. Plus, if my daughters ask me, sometimes I ask them to cook. They are each supposed to prepare at least one meal a week these days - part of their chores and "independent living skills." It can be breakfast, lunch, or dinner but it has to feed more than one person.
ReplyDeleteAnd I would guess that I'm not as amazing as a cook as you are . . . I don't have anyone stopping by my house based on the smell of good food wafting down the street.
And for tonight, we're having pot roast with potatoes, cooked carrots, and a green salad. (I actually know in advance - a kind of minor miracle)
I'm blessed that my daughter Faith cooks as much as she does. I really appreciate her help. But sometimes I just get so dang tired of coming up with something new!
DeleteAnd yeah, it cracked me up that my girlfriend could smell my cooking from the street- It helped that it was warm outside that day and I had all the kitchen windows wide open when she jogged on by. It was just a pork roast with baked apples, nothing fancy, but it was enough to grab her attention, lol
Hahahaha! My family doesn't ask me until they smell whatever I'm cooking. But my mom's hubby has the what's for dinner disease. He'll will ask first thing in the morning, while she's cooking and even while he's eating dinner! It drives her nuts!
ReplyDeleteHey Jenn! Oh you are lucky they don't ask you incessantly. Man does it drives me crazy when The Husband asks the night before when we are in bed- because then I can't help but start thinking about it when I should be just going to sleep! LOL
DeleteI'm a -huge- offender of doing this to my wife. Of course, sometimes, she's the culprit so it all evens out. She's also big on "forgetting to thaw something out" so she'll claim it's too late and we'll have to grab something out....lol.
ReplyDeleteOn the bright side, though, it sounds like your cooking is so good that people just can't wait to eat it....and that's a good thing.
Oh, and what's for dinner tonight? -ducks!-
Mark- Waaay back in the day when we first got married and had no kids in our house the rule was whoever got home first, had to cook. Which always worked to my advantage because I hard sick hours (like 60-70 a week) LOL
DeleteI am definitely guilty of the "forgetting to thaw something out" so now we have to go out or order pizza. More often than not, this will happen on a Friday night, lol
Haha, indeed. I've found the best way to avoid this question is to stop cooking. When you answer something like, "whatever you can find in the cupboard" then they stop asking. ;-) New follower, by the way! Hi! *waves*
ReplyDeleteHi J.R.!! Welcome to the Bird's Nest- I'm very glad to meet you. Sometimes I will answer The Husband with a, "I don't know, what are you cooking?" to shut him up. Works every time, lol
DeleteI hate the what's for dinner question and so I usually sit down for 30 minutes on Sunday and plan out meals for the week. I'm making BBQ'd chicken sloppy joes tonight from a Rachel Ray cookbook btw, feel free to ask me anytime if you need ideas. I'm a little obsessively organized like that :)
ReplyDeleteYou might just be my new hero- planning all of your meals in advance. I am so unorganized. And I might just take you up on that offer Johanna because I am always looking for new ideas/recipes. My girlfriends and I share whenever we find a "winner". Thanks!!
DeleteMy son will ask that question about tomorrow's dinner while eating today's dinner!
ReplyDeleteMy kids and husband are definitely guilty of that! It's always annoying when they do it too, lol.
DeleteAre you writing about me????? I laughed out loud when I read this BECAUSE......when my girlfriends and I used to go on vacation, while we were eating lunch (sometimes before we had been served) I would say....WHERE ARE WE EATING DINNER? They would all scream at me......eat your lunch before we talk about dinner~~~~
ReplyDeleteLoved this post girlfriend!
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Thanks so much Kathryn! I'm glad I could give you a laugh. I love to plan where we go OUT to eat, just not what I'm going to have to cook...lol!
DeleteYeah my family do this too! I do 99.9% of the cooking in our house so I try and sort out the weeks meals in advance but it's tricky because the kids are often out (don't tell you till just before!) or are working a part time job. Sometimes recently I have been known to say "Whatever you cook" in reply. Don't even get me started on everyones particular likes and dislikes! Tonight was going to be tuna fish bake but number 1 daughter announced she was eating out so number 2 daughter asked if we could have a curry instead which number 1 doesn't eat!! So tonight in a few minutes time is... chicken curry.
ReplyDeleteOh Suzanne! I'm sorry. My kids are still little so I haven't had to deal with that yet, but I could see where it could get annoying. Chicken curry sounds yummy though. I'd be up for that- for sure.
DeleteI love good food. If someone were to ask me "What's for dinner?" I'd have to think long and hard on that one. Lately I've been having a craving for cornbread and sweet potato pie and some pulled pork sandwiches.
ReplyDeleteHey Michael, how are you feeling? Hope you are doing better now.
DeleteWhat you are craving sounds a lot like my mother in laws down home southern style of cooking. That woman can make some cornbread and sweet potato pie to die for! And her ribs, oh man, they are so good they are legendary around here. Every party we have, she gets a special request to make and bring those ribs!
Wow, yeah, it definitely does seem like it'd be irritating to be asked that same question over and over! Luckily, I don't have to worry about that yet, since I just make dinner for myself. XD
ReplyDeleteOn the very rare occasion I find myself alone and needing to eat, I will wind up just eating a salad or making something quick and simple, like scrambled eggs. I would be a whole lot thinner if I only had to cook for myself, that's for sure, LOL
DeleteAmen, sister amen. I hate that question also. Generally I tell them 'Food' and they leave me alone.
ReplyDeleteTonight, it's left over bean, cheese and onion burritos. I like to make more of everything so I only have to actually cook every so often. Then there are those dinner that always taste better the second time around.
I tend to cook in large batches too- that's why my girlfriends just walk in my house and tell me I'm coming back later for dinner, they know I always make enough to feed an army, just in case, LOL
DeleteOh crap! I don't have dinner started or have a clue what I am going to do! It's seriously the worst part of the wifing/mother thing in my opinion!
ReplyDeleteHey Jessie! That's how I roll on the day to day. Always waiting to the last second to figure it out. I should try to be more like Johanna, and plan my meals ahead of time. But knowing me, I wouldn't stick to my own schedule, LOL
DeleteRight now I have a ton of hamburger in my freezer from my dad. So, most nights I'm making something with hambuger! Tacos, hotdishes, whatever. :)
ReplyDeleteNice! Tacos are a favorite over here too. The girls like to eat them or fajitas, at least once a week. It doesn't matter whether I use chicken, beef, beans or fish, they will still gobble them up.
DeleteI'm single and I get tired of myself asking that question! I do love to cook, but it starts to feel like such a chore, day in and day out, trying to figure out what to eat. Sometimes I'll end up eating weird concoctions, like scrambled eggs and rice, or popcorn, because I haven't gone shopping lately or am too lazy to make an actual meal.
ReplyDeleteHa! That's exactly what I'd be like if I lived alone! I would never cook. Actually, my sister comes over quite often to eat with us because she doesn't feel like cooking for just herself. It's a win, win for everyone when she comes over. The girls want her to come over every night anyway. And I love her company as well as her help in the kitchen!
DeleteAgreed, such a frustrating question to have to field every single day. My favorite response to the hubs: Whatever you're cooking.
ReplyDeleteHi Robin! Isn't it though? I have used that response on the husband too, lol. The only problem with him cooking is he always makes meat. No veg, no starch, no salad, just copious amounts of meat, with a side of bacon. LOL UGH!
DeleteWow, I should call my mom and apologize for all the times I asked when I was a kid.
ReplyDeleteFound you through ABFTS.
New follower.
What's up PTM? Welcome to the Bird's Nest! Thanks so much for the follow- And I think it's wise for all children to apologize to their moms when they grow up. Can't even count how many times I've apologized to mine- but it's still not enough, LOL
DeleteI'm sorry. I'm always asking what is for dinner, but it's more because I'm a planner. Plus, since I'm a vegetarian and my family is not, I often ask to see if I need to find something else for dinner.
ReplyDeleteAs for tonight's dinner, I think we're having hamburgers (mine will be veggie ones).
I think I might have one vegetarian in my house in the future. My daughter Frankie told me once she doesn't feel right eating ANYTHING that used to have eyes. Let me know if you have any good vegetarian recipes, it might be smart if I kept them on hand.
DeleteLOL! One of my daughters is a vegetarian, and the other like only meat, so it makes planning meals very difficult.
ReplyDeleteHI Matt!! That's funny- my Husband doesn't count anything I feed him as a meal, unless there is meat in it. Planning anything in advance especially what we are going to eat has just never been my strong suit!
DeleteI tell my family when we sit down together to eat dinner, what we'll be having the following evening. Things seem to have improved, they don't ask very often now. But its been replaced with a new question. What time is dinner? Which does wind me up as it is often said when I am coming through the front door from work!
ReplyDeleteI also tell them the kitchen is CLOSED on Thursday evenings, when I give myself the night off to write, or relax. Strangely, I never see anyone else cooking that night...
I like that idea of the kitchen being closed one day a week. That would be nice. But since I only work outside the home one day a week now, I guess I can't really get away with using that line. I might just try it anyway and see what happens! LOL
DeleteI feel the exact same way, and my husband does the same thing. It drives me bonkers! I don't mind much housework, but I'm not terribly domestic. It's the having to make every meal that gets to me. I don't like to cook, and I don't like taking all that time to think about and make something. Three times a day. We both need personal chefs!
ReplyDeleteOh man, Christine, wouldn't that be nice? I would hire a chef and a maid too, if I could afford it. Aren't I the worst stay at home mom you've every known? I don't ever feel like cooking or cleaning my house ever, LOL
DeleteI'm the cook in the house, so that's my job. My wife is terrible with that question, especially because she has a bad memory.
ReplyDeleteHer, in the morning: what are we having for dinner?
Me: We're having ____.
Her, in the afternoon: So, what are we having for dinner?
Me: I already told you. Try to remember.
Her: I can't. So... what's for dinner?
You cook dinner too? Dude! What can't you do?
DeleteOh man is that annoying! The Husband does that to me as well. So even when I actually have an answer and tell him what's for dinner, he will keep asking me because he forgets I already told him.
Once, I asked him why do you keep asking me what for dinner!! And he said, "Sometimes the only thing that gets me through a rough day at work is just thinking about coming home and eating that dinner." Then I felt really guilty about getting all testy when he asks me what I'm cooking.
I get tired of this too. I run out of ideas and ask my husband what he wants, because I hate cooking and no one eats it. If I take suggestions, I'm guaranteed SOMEONE will eat their dinner!
ReplyDeleteIf I ask my family, I get such complicated requests I want to scream. (Especially from my daughter Faith, who wants to be a chef) Nothing simple ever comes from her mouth, lol
DeleteThe Husband will eat anything I serve, (as long as there is meat involved) but I get tired of the same old meat and potato answer from him too.
And now I sound so whiney I can't even stand myself- lol
My answer is takeout or delivery.
ReplyDeleteThat's a fabulous answer.
DeleteMm... I think it'll be brie on some crackers. Ate too much this afternoon, so I'll be eating light. :-)
ReplyDeleteYUM! I'd eat brie smeared on just about anything. I love it. If it were just me, I'd eat light every night, making lunch the biggest meal of the day. I hate going to bed after eating too much. :)
DeleteAll I can say is AMEN!! Preach it sistah! I have my hand waving in the air. Since I could just eat cereal for dinner and be happy. (visiting from A-Z)
ReplyDeleteHi Lisa! Thanks for the Amen. I know "What's for dinner?" has to be in the Guiness Book Of Records as the most asked question, ever. LOL
DeleteThanks for popping in and commenting!