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Friday, April 4, 2014

A-Z Challenge D is for Dress Code

Day 4. Already. See how fast this challenge moves? It's crazy. Happy Letter D. D is for  Dress Code.

Living in a Shore town changes most peoples perspectives on what's acceptable to wear. Our dress code here is super slack. For the most part, even the fanciest restaurants will let you in, as long as you have on flip flops, a shirt or a cover up over your bikini. Even our Pastor wears shorts to church in the summer. I'm cool with that. Especially since tons of people have told me how much they appreciate our church simply because we are so welcoming and not stuffy or pretentious, at all.

The further you drive up north Jersey, the dressier people tend to get. I always try to look nice. That doesn't mean I'm dressed to the nines everyday, but I do, at least, attempt to look decent. I do not like most people down the Shore, think it's OK to visit Walmart in my pajamas. That drives me nuts. I'm not expecting you to show up at the Mart wearing your Sunday best, but dang, at least throw on a pair of pants! Some things, as I may have stated before, can not be UNSEEN. Just saying...

My husband fits in great down here at the Shore. Although he (THANK GOD) wears pants not pajamas when he goes to Walmart, the bottom line is the man is a terrible dresser. And I mean awful. I'm not sure what's wrong with him or why he can't  recognize his outfits are so bad. I also don't understand why he doesn't throw away t-shirts with giant holes in the pits! Why doesn't he know shirts with holes are no longer acceptable options? Maybe it's because he was forced to wear a uniform for most of his life, first in Catholic school, then in the Marines and now as a law enforcement officer. Perhaps it killed his ability to pick out acceptable clothes when left to his own devices. When he gets ready and all dressed for a night "out" my girls and I just laugh and shake our heads in disbelief.  The colors and combinations he comes up with are so bad you think, he must be joking! I wish. I also wish he would allow me to photograph him, so I could post the photo proof here to show it. You'll just have to trust me when I tell you, it's bad. The worst part is he doesn't believe us!! He has this one pair of red sweats (not just any red, but bright, frickin fire engine red) that I really want to light on fire so he never, ever wears them anywhere again.

What can you do? I've tried buying him new things, but he  shoves them to the back of the closet never to see the light of day. It's so frustrating. Does someone you love lack the dress code gene? How do you feel  about people wearing their PJs out and about? Are you cool with it or does it irk you too?

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  1. As a man, all I can say in your hubby's defense is that (especially due to the fact that he's always wore a uniform) we like to wear what's comfortable. If it has a hole or two in it, no big deal. I'm always in shorts and some sort of 'geeky' t-shirt....unless we go out to eat at a decent restaurant (which we have quite a few in our tourist town), then I'll put on a nice tee shirt or even one of my few button down. Still with shorts, though! :)

    I agree, though, wearing pajamas out is never a good look....even for Wal Mart.

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    1. I think you are right about the comfortable thing. And he's very practical. If it still fits, he wears it. Shorts and a tee shirt, if they are clean and without holes, I would always approve of. He has a bunch but tends to wear the ones that have seen better days.

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  2. Surely this is a site well worth seeing.

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    1. Well thank you very much Jerry. I appreciate that.

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  3. Maybe he's colorblind?
    I always dress nice and acceptable in public. Although I do enjoy that I can wear jeans to church. Suit for communion Sunday though.

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    1. I never thought of that before! Most of his clothes are either blue or black with the occasional camo green-for the most part all neutrals. Those red sweats are an anomaly. Not sure why he's so attached to them. Knowing The Husband, he may only wear them because I protest so much. Perhaps I should employ a new tactic and not say a word? Maybe non-reaction is the way to go!

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  4. That's a super theory about somebody who's been in uniform most of his life and doesn't know how to dress himself. You should use that in your fiction! I think guys are bad dressers coz we can't do a damn thing. When they get round to washing, their clothes shrink. They wash their best sweater, and it's suddenly two sizes too small. Disaster! :-)

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    1. Hi Scribbler- Yes! I have often said The Husband will make his debut in one of my books. He's a great character for sure.

      Hmmm, I wash all the clothes around here. You just gave me an idea. Those red sweats might just have to meet HIGH heat in the dryer. LOL.

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  5. I dunno, I think I'm more like your husband when it comes to dressing and if I could wear pajamas every day for the rest of my life, I'd do it. I think everyone should wear what they want to wear - life is too short to be trussed up in stuff that makes you uncomfortable. I especially appreciate that since your hubby has to be dressed up a certain way every day at work, that he wants to do the complete opposite on his own time. I dare ya, Jay, wear pajamas to Wallyworld! You can do it! :)

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    1. He is going to love your comment. I will make sure I share it with him! You could use some law enforcement on your side, right? HA. Just messing with ya Cathy!!

      I don't know if I could make it out the door in my PJs. I could try, but I would feel so weird!! I don't mind the sweats, or flannels so much, but I've seen full on silk pajamas and boxers. That, in my book, is over the line.

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  6. You know where I grew up...comfy whatever clothes was pretty much the norm. I was lucky to have shoes on my feet going to school let alone clothes that matched or fit right. I've tried to really step up my game since I'll be doing a lot more author-type events soon. Pants required. :)

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    1. Yes, pants would be a good idea... One of the things I do love about living down here, is not having to dress up for much. But I think when we go slack for so long, when it's time to turn it on, we lack any sound judgement.

      Funny story: one of my best friends owns a business in Hawaii (on the Big Island). She said her biggest problem was keeping staff. Even though she literally had only two rules (1) you couldn't sleep on the job (2) you had to wear shoes! She lost at least 2-3 employees a month that said it was just too hard to follow the rules. HAHAHA. I love it! That's Hawaii.

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  7. Wow, another New Jersey MG/YA author who's addicted to crossword puzzles! What are the odds? And my husband is even clothing-challenged like yours (although I'm in North Jersey, where you seem to think people dress better). My best advice: carefully and secretly winnow out his dresser drawers, and - most importantly - PULL FROM THE BOTTOM. In twenty years, I've never been caught, so I feel safe in recommending this technique. Let me know how it works out for you!

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    1. It's always awesome to meet another Jersey Girl!!! And a writer at that, woot woot!

      I always tease that once you hit Exit 105 and up, it's like you passed an invisible line. People in general start dressing nicer.... Not everyone, of course, but for the most part. Most wouldn't dare enter a restaurant up North, wearing what they deem acceptable down here at the Shore.

      Pull from the bottom, I like that advice! I'll try anything at this point. I've tried everything else.

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  8. It is funny because while I enjoy my comfort I actually feel really good when I dress up. I don't often have the chance to button up a shirt and slip on the dress shoes, but if I can I enjoy it.

    Brandon Ax: Writer's Storm

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    1. It makes me sad to see my husband not look his best, because when he does dress up, he looks amazing. But he always says he's uncomfortable and he can't wait to come home and change! LOL

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  9. I'm with Brandon, I'm not usually into dressing up, but do enjoy it with when I do. I become all girly and go for it lol
    The PJs out in public, no. Just no. Yoga pants...other comfortable clothing, but PJs...really?

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    1. YES! I am not opposed to comfort I wear sweats all the time, but at least they are pants!

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  10. Yeah, that tends to irk me. There was this one time at "the Mart" when this guy was walking around like he thought he was in a gang or something, and it would have worked, too if he wasn't in his jammies. I still laugh picturing it.

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    1. That is too funny! We see a lot of droopy drawers around here too. That doesn't bother me as much as it does The Husband. He must deal with that consistently, at work. He loves to tell young men with their pants hanging down the origins of that fad, which was jail. The reason they used to wear their pants like that in jail is um, really, really bad. Once they hear it most boys pull their pants up immediately. (At least the ones who went around just thinking it was "cool" to wear them that way.)

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  11. You don't have to post a picture...I live with one just like him. Holes, stains, floppy soles...he doesn't care. If you ever meet him and he tells the story of me tossing his wardrobe in the trash...I wasn't being mean. It was an intervention!
    I don't wear the jammies to Wal Mart. My nieces do it, but they're younger...me, I'd just look like a middle aged slug there to trade my EBT points for beer.

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    1. So you feel my pain. I've tried throwing away stuff. My girls have hid some of his most offensive clothing but he always seems to find it again. Oy! Why is it so popular now among young girls to wear their jammies out? When I was a teenager, we would have died before leaving the house without being done up with mad make up, big hair and the perfect outfit. It took us hours to get ready. Plus, we were so self conscious it was ridiculous. We always wanted to look our best, even at Walmart.

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  12. I don't get the people who go out shopping in their PJ's. Are they trying to end up in one of those 'people of Wal-Mart emails, or what? When it comes to men and their 'dress code', for the most part I don't get that either.Ssome of em are real peacocks and always dressed to the nines and others...well.

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    1. I don't understand it either. I know for a fact, that when I look my worst, that is when I see a MILLION people I know. And I know so many people in my town and around these parts I can't throw a rock into a crowd and not hit someone I know! I would die if they saw all this in PJs!

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  13. wearing pajamas in public is pretty bad, I'm be too embarrassed to go anywhere like that.

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    1. That's good to know because you are still young and it seems to be a trend with the younger generation. Glad you agree Adam!!

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  14. Dress code seemed so important in our rural community. But now?

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    1. Yes! I was a teen in the late 80-90s. We went no where without big hair, tons of make up and some kind of nice outfit I took way too long picking out. We wouldn't be caught out "in town" not looking our best.

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  15. Maybe you need to buy your hubs comfortable worn clothing without holes? Just an idea. I'm not a big dresser either and that drives my mother crazy. She thinks you need to look your best just to go to the supermarket. Seriously? I'm not dressing to the nines to push a cart and pick up food. But I draw the line on wearing pajamas in public. No way.

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    1. I have bought him all kinds of clothes (soft material, cotton blends even tagless tee-shirts), so have his two sisters and mine. (They all agree with me about his dress code) He never wears the stuff we buy for him. He just smiles at us and is all patronizing, like, "OH how nice. A new shirt." And then we never see it again. My kids laugh at me too because I am the complete opposite of The Husband. I usually primp a good long time before I leave the house. They tell me I don't need to get all made-up, but I know I won't feel my best, if I don't. Maybe your mom is the same way. My girls, however, dress casual but comfortable (as our beach town dictates) but always try to look nice. Especially for church. Outside of church, if we are just kicking around town, I don't care if they dress up. I let them be comfortable. But I would beat their little behinds if they thought they were going to step out in silk pajama bottoms! NO WAY- like I've seen at the store. I find that totally inappropriate.

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  16. I've seen people wear their pajamas sometimes while out and about, and it's like...seriously? I'd be too embarrassed to ever do that!

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    1. Me too Heather, me too. No way. It's one thing to wear sweats, or even stretchy pants (but I could do a whole other post on those) but jammies?? Come on already! Put some clothes on.

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  17. I have to admit I have little to no fashion sense. My wife and I don't even try anymore. It's pathetic. I grew up in a beach community so I saw a lot of lazy dressers. Not a fan of people wearing PJ's in public -- unless it's a cute girl on casual Friday. Cute girls can pull off anything :/

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    1. So you know what I mean about as long as you have on flip flops and a some kind of cover up, your good. You can go anywhere. Only once did I see a trio of cute girls in bikinis, (without cover ups) get kicked out of a restaurant. They were all sandy and still wet from the water and had on no shoes. I guess the cute factor only goes so far...

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