My youngest daughter has fallen into the awful habit of punishing herself unusually hard for her mistakes. For example, she just took a test on the organs of the human body and received a grade of 98. An A+! Amazing, right? I thought it was awesome. But guess what? She was DEVASTATED. Do you want to know why? She didn't get a 100. Frankie didn't get a 100 because she forgot the "e" when writing large intestines, so the teacher deducted 2 points. Oh man did that kid punish herself. She cried and wailed and carried on. It was ridiculous. I told her to stop beating herself up over it, to let it go. This was crazy, she just made a silly mistake. Instead of focusing on all she did right, all she could focus on was her mistake. "How could I be so stupid mom? How could I spell esophagus and pancreas right but mess up on the word large? I've known how to spell large since first grade!!!" She went on and on and on like this...it made me so upset. Why couldn't she just let it go. One thing I know for sure, that kid will never spell the word large wrong ever again.
This unhealthy behavior my daughter is displaying has been weighing heavily on this mom's heart. What about you? Do you suffer from a case of "larg" intestines? When you make a mistake, do you punish yourself over and over again? Do you take a small error and blow it out of proportion? Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes. To me, as long as you learn from your mistakes, there is no reason to be so upset about them. I'd love to hear your thoughts.
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