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Thursday, December 5, 2013

December Insecure Writer's Support Group


This first Wednesday of every month is set aside for the Insecure Writer's Support Group. At least it's supposed to be. For some reason or another, I keep missing that deadline and wind up having to post a day late. (Yesterday was my birthday. I'd like to say I spent the day doing really fun birthday-related activities. Instead, I spent the day running errands and sick kids back and forth to the doctor's office.) I'm posting today with the optimistic mind set of better late than never. I hope you will all humor me and that optimism. Thanks so much!


Dear Insecure Blogging Friends: This month, more than any other, I am in dire need of your encouragement. The time between my posts have been growing further and further apart, much to my dismay. Maybe you have noticed that I haven't been around to drop comments and check in with you all-and I hate that. These past few months I have been consumed with poor health, a very crazy and stressful schedule and an overall lack of inspiration. These past few months have also been the least prolific (and most depressing) I  have ever had in my writing life.

I've fallen into a deep slump and I can't get up! I'm not sure what can pull me up out of this writing black hole. Every time I think I have a second to sit down and write or even an inkling of inspiration, some kind of major catastrophe happens requiring my immediate attention. Overall, this lack of creativity and production has left me feeling like a complete hack. I'm so discouraged. Exhausted. Depleted. Worn out. Ready to throw in the towel and just give up. Why did I ever think I had what it takes to be a writer in the first place?  Oh, yeah. It's that bad. I'm flirting with the idea of giving up on my writing completely. Like I said before, I'm in dire need of encouragement. Or an intervention. Or a vacation...  So, any comments, suggestions or inspirational quotes thrown my way would be much appreciated ~ Jaybird

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  1. Happy belated birthday! Even if it wasn't spent in a fun fashion.
    I vote for vacation. Doesn't have to be expensive, just a few days away in a place that would inspire you. A change of scenery is often the best thing.

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    1. Thanks Alex. I'm thinking about going on a ladies retreat- but I have to be well enough for travel. Fingers crossed.

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  2. I've been seeing this and feeling a bit of the strain myself lately. Brinda Berry once commented on my blog and it saved me a bit of sanity (I say a bit, because to claim a whole lot of something I may never have had is pushing it!) She said, writing is a marathon, not a sprint...pace yourself.

    She's so right! I think sometimes I see what other people are doing, see the successes they are having and I feel just like you do...I am a hack. But I don't write for fame or even for money (though, I DO like money), but I write because it pleases my soul. I was feeling guilty for the time spent at the keyboard and then I thought, my hubs never feels guilty when he goes hunting. And no one ever says, "Gee Chad, you didn't win the trophy buck, you should hang it up". I don't know why, as writers, we are plagued with so much guilt for doing something that feeds our souls.

    *And for the record, you are not a hack. You have talent. Lots of it. Some days your posts are just so easy to read, I get jealous. And if you can write a post, you can write a book.

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    1. Brinda is one smart lady! Thanks so much for the encouragement. I really loved that hunting analogy you used Elizabeth! It's so true-my husband doesn't ever care if he comes home with a deer or not, just as long as he gets out hunting, he's happy. I really appreciate your comment and am treasuring your words in my heart. Thank you!!

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  3. Agree with Alex and Elizabeth! If you can manage a couple of days away somewhere in the New Year I'm sure that would give you a boast. You certainly have talent and you shouldn't give up. Sure things might not be going so well at the moment but it won't stay like that for ever. I am hoping that the New Year will bring renewed energy for me, hopefully it will for you too. And of course a belated Happy Birthday to you :)

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    1. Hi Suzanne! Thank you very much for the encouragement. I'd love to get away. I'm trying to plan something now, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I'll be healthy enough to follow through. Deep down, I know this rough patch will pass, but some days it's hard to see the forest through the trees!

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  4. Happy Birthday! I truly think there is a time and season for everything. Maybe you just need to focus on your health or other things for a bit. Just because you don't have time or inspiration to write right now does NOT make you a hack or not a writer. I think a vacation sounds like the ticket. I'm certain inspiration will hit when you least expect it and those fingers will be happily typing out a wonderful story soon. In the meantime, I'm praying for you. <3

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    1. Aw thank you so much Ilima- I really appreciate the prayers! To be perfectly honest, I'm feeling a lot of insecurity in my ability to do anything well at the moment, not just writing. I feel like a failure at being a good wife, mother, sister, daughter and friend as well. It all boils down to a lack of energy and time. When I am well rested and feeling better, I usually adopt the attitude that I can take on the world. But when this girl gets no sleep, ugh! Totally different story. Every single thing seems monumental- if you can understand/follow that.

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  5. Happy belated Birthday!
    Give yourself a bit of a break - don't force yourself to do things you don't have time for, or feel bad about not doing them. Have a break, and get back to it when you're ready :)

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    1. Hi Laura- thanks for the birthday wishes! My kids insisted on celebrating, even though I couldn't really do too much. They ordered pizza and had the pizza place write "Happy Birthday" in pepperoni on it. The gesture was so sweet and it made me laugh. I feel guilty whining about having a bad b-day after that.

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  6. When you didn't post yesterday, I REALLY started to worry. So glad to see you back, even if it is just for encouragement. I miss you. Hang in there, this is a difficult time for everyone. Listen to all the rest - take a break, don't force ,and whatever you do, don';t give up.

    Oh, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

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    1. Hey you!! I know you have had your own struggles, which some are ironically similar to mine. My computer was down all last week, my health has been crap, money has been tight and so on. The husband had to take off some days of work to help me out when I was real sick, and now his job is punishing him for it. That really made me upset, since it is always me that he calls out for, not even himself. This is life. Sometimes it's good sometimes it's not so good. This too shall pass, but sometimes I get SO overwhelmed.

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  7. My grandfather used to say "Don't make decisions when you're too sad, too angry or too happy. They won't be objective decisions." I think he's right and I agree with the others. Take a break, a vacation. Give yourself time to relax, renew strength and regain balance. Once you're back to yourself, you can decide on your writing. I leave you lots of Dragon Hugs! Happy belated birthday.

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    1. Thanks so much Al! I really appreciate that. And your grandfather sounds like he gave some sound advice. I am trying to take a little time to myself. But it's not easy. Thanks for the b-day wishes, hugs and encouragement!!

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  8. Happy birthday! Sorry to hear you had to spend it running errands, though...

    I'm also incredibly sorry to hear about this slump you're in. Even though it sucks, it's inevitable sometimes, I think. I agree with what others have said about a break. Sometimes we just need to recharge for a while in order to do anything creative again. And in case you're worried that break might become permanent...I once quit art for about a year, but then ended up returning to it, and now there isn't a day where I don't spend at least a minute doing something creative. Your writing mojo will return if you just give it time!

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    1. Hi Heather!! I hope this doesn't sound bad, but I am glad to hear you quit and then went back to art. My niece quit for a long time as well and has just begun to get back into it. It's encouraging to know I am not alone. Thanks!!

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    2. That doesn't sound bad at all! In fact, I mentioned it in the first place in hopes it'd be encouraging for you. :)

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  9. Sorry your birthday wasn't more exciting but listen to me. You will NOT stop writing. Take baby steps, make a list of what you have to do and slowly go through it. Create a Motivation Board and place pictures representing what you want to accomplish. I have one and right now I've enjoyed some good eating, on my way to getting a computer for myself and a model I cut out for an idea I had no idea what for has me curious if she's someone from my brand new secret project. Inspiration is everywhere Jay and even if it's a bit over the line for me to say I'll go there. Look at your kids, you want to tell them to go for their dreams? Well get off your pity but and strive for yours. Get moving and I love you. *Bows head* Please don't be mad!

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    1. I'm not mad at you! Your words are just what the doctor ordered Sheena. I need someone to kick my butt back into the positive attitude I usually adopt. Some days, it's just harder than others to get back that positive mind set. I thank you for your words. And yes, I am my kids cheerleader, no matter what. I need to be my own cheerleader as well. I am very hard on myself- I need to cut myself a break every now and then too.

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  10. first off, happy late IWSG!
    secondly, Don't quit now! If it all came easily, there'd be no reward! Who would care? Some people write poorly or slowly when everything is in their favor... If you can manage to write AT ALL (and that's including this very blog) when things are rough, it can only get better when things level out!

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    1. Hi David! Welcome to the Bird's Nest. Thanks so much for the follow and the encouragement! I WILL push through this rough time. Writing (usually) is one of the things that makes me feel better. I hope to get back to that place real soon.

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  11. Better late than never, right? I'm sorry to hear poor health and lack of inspiration have been plaguing you. We've all been there. There are so many mornings I wake up and think, Oh God, there's another blog post due for tomorrow. I have absolutely no interest in doing this. But I force myself through it and it's totally worth it for the comments and the ongoing connection with our fellow blogging friends. You can do it! We both believe in you!

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  12. I go through blogging highs and lows, too. It's hard to get back momentum once you've lost it, but we're here Jen. And we miss you! You have such fun life stories to add to the blogosphere. I hope you don't go away for good!

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  13. Advanced Merry Christmas & Happy New Year greetings and also Thanks and Smiles:) for ur support till now Dear Blogger Buddy God<3U:)

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  14. Hi Jaybird! I'm weighing in a little late. Sorry I missed your post earlier. My recommendation is to check out those books you've been dying to read from the library (or that have accumulated in piles around your house), and find somewhere to slip away to read them. Keep a pad of paper and pen nearby to jot down ideas that come to you as you read. Reading great stories will get your gears turning. You'll find yourself motivated to write again. Writing short stories is also a great way of getting back into the craft without all the drama of churning out a novel. I'm actually in short story mode right now.

    Good luck! Your dry spell will pass. And if you ever want to bounce ideas around or need someone to take a look at what you're crafting, I would be honored to help.

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