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In case any of my friends or family members actually read this Blog, please consider all Names, Characters, Places and Incidents to be the product of the author's imagination and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, events or locales are entirely COINCIDENTAL...Muaaah!! Now, really, about me: I bring the crazy wherever I go, so I've been told...I make fun of myself more than anyone else ever could. I hate: the awkward silence in elevators, watches with no numbers, picky eaters, Cancer and legalism. I love: coffee, stalking Hugh Jackman, my Spanx, COMMENTS, sarcasm and writing: Middle Grade, NA, YA Paranormal and Urban Fantasy.

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Wednesday, July 3, 2013

July Insecure Writer's Support Group


Here I am somehow shocked once again to find that the first Wednesday of the month has crept up on me so quickly! For more info on the Insecure Writer's Support Group and all the awesome they are about, please go check out Alex J. Cavanaugh's blog and his description there as well as the list of other participants. My gosh, there has been so much activity in my life these past four weeks it has made it virtually impossible for me to sit my large rump down and attack all of my writing goals this month... Sigh.

I never thought I'd admit this, but I'm  missing April! You know, when I was forced to glue my ADD butt down and focus on coming up with a new blog topic everyday for the A-Z Challenge.  I miss the spontaneous creativity that challenge pulled out of me but it's more than that- I miss all of  you!  I miss that close connection I felt to all of you during A-Z time.

Reading about your individual lives and seeing what was going on in them day by day, was my favorite part of the challenge. Being so stupid busy recently afforded me very little time to read and comment on your blogs. Which  made me feel awful and sort of like the kid who moved away and lost touch with a bunch of great friends from the old neighborhood. When I came back from vacation, I can't tell you how eager I was to read through my blog roll to see what everyone had been up to! The distance also made me realize how ridiculously attached I've grown to all of you. (Whether you wanted me to or not! Ha.) Therefore, this month, my post is not going to be about my writing insecurities, but the opposite. It's all about the security I've found here.

Who knew joining a group about insecurity, would prove to supply the exact opposite? But that's what I found here. I discovered the security of knowing when I do let go and open up about all of my shortcomings and wild, writerly insecurities, you all are going to be there for me. And holy crow no matter what crazy bits about myself I've chosen to share, you have all rallied around me with such amazing words of encouragement, support and advice. I want you to know how  much I appreciate you championing me like that. I cherish and take to heart each and every single up-lifting and/or constructive comment left here for me. I  credit all of you, for the amazing steps forward I've made in sharing my fears as well as my writing itself.

Before I started this group, I was absolutely petrified to share my work! Every time I even thought about sending it out to someone to critique, I wanted to throw up. But that has changed. This chick has critique partners now! Whaaa? Yep- and I send my work off to them without wanting to throw up.  Do you know how monumental that is for a spaz like me?  I have all of you to thank for that. So thank you. Thank you Insecure Writer's Support Group brothers and sisters for pulling out something  in me I absolutely never thought I'd find: SECURITY. 




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  1. Jaybird, that is awesome! And thank you. This is exactly why I started this group. We never lose touch here and no one judges.

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    1. Alex- THANK YOU. It was your idea to start this group and what a wonderful idea it was! Thanks!! I know I'm not the only one who feels this way too. :)

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  2. Who knew writers were such extraordinary people! I sure didn't. Caring, giving up time to help crit a cyber friend's manuscript. Advice out the wazoo. Amazing isn't it.

    CD Coffelt ponders at Spirit Called
    And critiques at UnicornBell

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    1. Hi Huntress! First of all, welcome to the Bird's Nest- hope you like it here :)

      I had no idea joining this group would help me make such enormous strides in writing. But here we are! And I wouldn't have it any other way. Writers are extraordinary, for sure.

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  3. I almost shot coffee through my nose when I read that you miss April...lol (shakes fist) hehe.

    I totally agree...it's great that we can find comfort in knowing that, whatever our insecurities are, we'er NOT alone.

    I'm glad you remember that your blogging pals are just a hyperlink away :)

    Have a great Fourth!

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    1. Ha! I wish I could have seen that :) I know April was crazy busy and so difficult at times to get through all the posts, but you get what I mean about missing everyone- it's not the same as when we are talking every day.

      I can say this, I sure am happy I am NOT alone in my insecurity.(Is that wrong? LOL)

      Happy 4th of July to you too. Over here at The Bird's Nest we are taking it easy, just kicking it at home, BBQing and swimming in the pool. Best kind of day!

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  4. This group is amazing, isn't it? Seriously, I think it would be one of the first pieces of advice I would give newbie writers. Join IWSG! It's a must. ;)

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    1. YOU are amazing my friend! Thanks for always being there for me and putting up with my neurotic insane writerly ways! You are the best. *Hugs*

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  5. This post makes me squee with happiness. I'm so pleased you've found security through IWSG, and you've found CPs to share your work with. I hope you continue going from strength to strength with your writing. :D

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    1. Clare!! Thanks so much. And you are one of the first people that comes to mind whenever I think about those up-lifting, positive comments/support. You have always been there for me- Thank you so much for that. And ANY time you want to add your name to my list of CP's or BETAs you can! I'd love to work with you. I know you are busy now with your new job but I am just an e-mail away will always be here for you if you need me!!!

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  6. Awww, I love this! I love that you feel a level of security now. I'm glad that you joined as well, that's how I met you and I'm so glad I did. You are great person Jaybird! - One of my faves!

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    1. You too Dani!! I loved your post today and made The Husband read it- just so he knows I am not alone in feeling I have real "friends" all over the blog-o-sphere. Thanks for always bringing me up instead of down and laughing at my stupid jokes. It is awesome to know someone else gets me! *hugs*

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  7. Fabulous post! The writing community is absolutely amazing. :) Have a great long weekend!

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    1. Hey Christine- thanks so much. This community means so much to me. I am convinced I would have given up before I ever started without all of you!

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  8. Glad to hear I/we could help. Now sit your CLB (that's short for cute little butt, didn't want to say it out loud cause it sounds weird saying that to another woman, but...you know me...weird) and send me the next installment of your work.

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    1. Thank you so much Barb for always being there for me and all of your wonderful advice. I honestly don't know where I'd be without you!! I have been concentrating on my middle grade novel- if you are interested in taking a look at that. I'll send it right over if you are into it.

      And we are both weirdos; maybe that's why we click! :)

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  9. I love ISWG, it really is amazing. It's a great comfort :)

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    1. I knew I wasn't alone in loving the ISWG! This group IS amazing. What a great comfort to know I have you all!

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  10. That is awesome! And I want you to know, your brave sharing has singularly encouraged me to be more honest in my own writing. When I first started blogging and writing, I doubted a soul would ever read it, so I just wrote for myself. Once the numbers started to creep up, I started to over think every single thing I wrote, I wanted it to look professional and I most certainly did NOT want to put my personal life up for public scrutiny. Then a lady who used to read my blog, but had stopped because it had lost something. That something was honesty and personality.

    Got to wear my big girl pants and be brave like the Jaybird!

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    1. No way! Oh my gosh Elizabeth you just made my freaking day- Let me explain. A certain person (who shall remain nameless) kept telling me maybe I should hold back on my blog a bit, but that's just not me and I can't front like that. It would make me feel like I'm not being truthful. If I met you in person, I'm the exact same way as I am on this blog. I kind of tell you everything I'm feeling, whether it might be considered inappropriate or not. I've had SO many others in my circle of friends who have told me that my candor is not only (1) hilarious (2) what everyone is thinking but no one else is brave enough to say (3) what they rely on for a dose of truth/honesty/reality.

      I love your blog and I think your posts are awesome. Outing yourself for stepping in poop and tracking it all over your house the other day was brilliant. So funny and honest! And what a response you received from telling that story! Just keep doing what you're doing- I think you are amazing.



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  11. That's what I love about IWSG - it helps to know that you aren't alone! :)

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    1. Hi Emma- oh my gosh does it ever help to know I am not alone!!

      Thanks for commenting.

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  12. I love this blogging community for all the reasons you mention. Support, friendship, someone to listen when you need to let of a little steam. I would miss you all terribly if I couldn't check in with you :)

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    1. I am right there with you Suzanne! I also love that whenever I see the color purple now or unicorns, it makes me immediately think of you :)

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  13. *huggles* I felt the same when I took a massive blog break, and I still feel a bit like the new girl, starting over again! Thankfully, I have been welcomed back! :D

    This is the great thing about IWSG, it brings you close to people who understand, and we definitely need that as writers!

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    1. Kyra!! Oh my gosh who could forget you? You have been such a support to so many here, I was thrilled to see you back after your break and if I could I'd reach right through this screen and give you a massive hug!! I missed you when you were gone and am so happy to see you back to blogging.

      Opening up to other writers has sparked the most amazing response; one I never could have imagined. This group is phenomenal.

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  14. Lovely post - and I totally agree! It's so nice knowing there are people out there who will take you seriously and offer support and commiseration. I love the IWSG!

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    1. YAY!! Me too Linda- it's the best feeling knowing I can come here and let it all out! And someone has always seemed to have been in my shoes at one point so they can lend me great advice.

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  15. It's so true. This group provides such a wonderful comfort and sense of community. I love it!!

    Great inspirational post - thank you =)

    Elsie

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    1. You are very welcome. I feel so lucky to have you all.

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  16. I only miss how organized I was in April...though I did love reading all of the posts. But BOY was I tired at the end of that month :D

    That's the great thing about this community. No matter how long you disappear everyone is always right here and ready to welcome you back with open arms.

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    1. LOL. I knew someone was going to think I went and lost my mind when I said I miss April. LOL

      Although I don't miss all the crazy busy, I really do miss the closeness I felt to everyone during that time. But you are right, whenever someone is away and comes back, everyone is ready and willing to welcome you back with open arms. LOVE that.

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  17. Awww! Nicest post of the day, so far! Thanks for that!

    ~ Alex's IWSG minion of the month, Nancy

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    1. You are so very welcome and it's so cool to hear that- thanks a bunch!! Thanks for being Alex's minion and being willing to take on the ISWG co-hosting duties this month too.

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  18. I started my blog over seven years ago, and I never knew there was so much support here. I found some on one social network (DeviantArt) but not like the support here.

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    1. Seven years ago? Wow, Diane, that's awesome. I haven't been at it quite as long as you have but I am thrilled at what I've found here. I've never heard of DeviantArt; I might just have to check them out too!

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  19. Well, you're not alone in your feelings. I sometimes feel like I've become terribly addicted to all of you. This community is kind of addictive really. But you know you don't lose your place, at least not in the dragon's heart. You live there and don't pay rent. hehehe. :D

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    1. Aw, thanks Al-I truly appreciate that prime rent-free space!! Sometimes, when things are going all wrong and getting twisted up in my life I'm already thinking about my blog and posting all about it! I know that when I write about it here, someone out there has been through what I'm going through and will be able to lend me some support, or at least an ear. And that is priceless!!

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  20. That's so sweet. IWSG is really a secure place for all of us. An we love you Jay.

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    1. Love you too Sheena!! You are one of the people who was EVERYWHERE during the A-Z challenge, always leaving a positive, up-lifting comment for everyone involved. Which was not an easy thing to do, and I think you are amazing for doing it!!

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  21. Fantastic post! I mean it! You have brought up such a great point. There is so much support in the writing arena. I love love love it! Thanks for the amazing positive post.

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    1. You are so very welcome Julia! I'm glad I had the chance to up-lift everyone else for a change! :)

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  22. What a lovely post, Jaybird. Heartfelt and honest. I feel the same way about IWSG. It has certainly allowed me to be part of a great group of people, who share the same feelings and thoughts.

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    1. Thanks so much Carolyn!! I'm glad to be on the same page with so many other writers. It's brilliant.

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  23. Heartfelt post, Jen! Thank you for sharing your life with me! You are one awesome blogger. :)

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    1. You are welcome and right back at you Em!!

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  24. I have yet to find another group more accepting and supportive than IWSG. The progress you've mentioned is the whole purpose for its existence. Isn't it great when things work out like we hope?

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    1. Yes! Jeff this group has been too good to me. I think I'd still be staring at my first draft of my WIP, crying to myself, because no one else in my life could possibly understand how much it took out of me just to get that thing on paper!!! Here, everyone commiserates and understands. It's an incredible blessing to be a part of.

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  25. That's the great thing about this group: we're a bunch of writers with insecurities that we don't realize are common until we talk to each other. <3

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    1. Hey Debra! It's amazing how much we have in common isn't it? And even if you don't suffer from the exact insecurity as someone else, that doesn't seem to stop anyone from rallying around you and still offering their support!!

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