First up for discussion: Do Opposites Attract? What's your perspective on the validity of this statement? Do you have any experience you'd like to share, negative or positive, dating an opposite?
|Our wedding day. Notice The Husband's giant Shrek fingers, covering mine :)|
Here's my "expert" opinion/experience on the topic:
The Husband and I are exact opposites. He is everything I am not. But I believe it's one of the reasons I was so attracted to him in the first place. Even though I am forced to recite The Disclaimer every time we meet new people (My disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed or implied by the Individual a/k/a The Husband are not necessarily those reflected of The Network, a/k/a Jaybird.)
The Husband, unlike me, holds nothing back. You always know right where you stand because he'll tell you. For some, his brutal honesty would have been a huge turn off. When I met him, I had just ended a four year relationship primarily due to a lack of honesty and trust. Right away, I knew The Husband was different. He was not afraid to tell me the truth, even if it hurt my feelings. And I loved that about him.
My husband is ridiculously strong, confident, rough around the edges, outspoken, able to keep calm in a crisis. He can make/fix or MacGyver absolutely anything, he's athletic and agile, he's always willing to take the lead and is so freaking sure of himself, all the time. Reverse that list and, yep, you have ME.
All of the hobbies and activities The Husband excels at like: scuba diving, flying helicopters, sharp-shooting/sniper, outdoor survivalist, camping, hunting, deep sea fishing, I'd rather stick needles in my eye than attempt. And my ideas of fun, like reading, writing or going to the beach and just chilling in the sun, bores him to absolute tears.
|The Husband's favorite reading material. No where close to mine :)|
Now, his type A, Alpha Male, testosterone-filled personality may not make him the most popular or PC guest at cocktail parties, but he is again, something I'm not. A survivor. You see, I am certain, like the cockroach, my husband will survive any kind of apocalypse thrown at him... The post-apocalyptic husband would adapt. He would hunt, live off of whatever he could and he would SURVIVE. Whereas, I would crumble. Completely. Especially without refrigeration, Internet service, coffee...or any of his emergency survival kits, LOL
We've been married for 15 years and although it hasn't always been easy blending our two types of opposing personalities, I have relied on the strength of The Husband for so long now, sometimes I wonder whether or not I could actually survive without my opposite. He is my backbone, my greatest protector, loyal advocate and biggest fan. Whatever weaknesses I have, he sees as his job to fulfill for me. And whenever he puts his foot in his mouth, way oversteps his bounds or knocks somebody out, it is my job to pick them back up, apologize and smooth things over. (Good thing I worked in Public Relations as long as I did. It has certainly put my skills to the test and come in handy since I married the client from hell. )
Together, these opposites make a great team! Or an outrageous, ridiculous and often hilarious, reality show. (We were actually approached about doing a reality show a few years ago, after sitting next to a couple in the industry at a wedding. The entire table tried to convince us to say yes. Ha!) *true freaking story*
In my opinion, YES, Opposites do, in fact, Attract. Please, tell me, I'm dying to know, what do you think?