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Thursday, August 23, 2012

"Unfriended"

Sooo, today I found out I have been officially "unfriended" by someone on Facebook. This is the first time this ever happened, because I don't accept friend requests from random people I don't know. Suffice it to say, this was someone I have known for years, and once liked and respected. All that changed however, (for both of us I guess) in the past forty-eight hours.

Here's the deal....the person who unfriended me was dating a very close friend's son. For some inane reason, she decided to post some very unflattering things about him and his family, all over FB. Not the smartest move. Honestly, maybe she wanted to end their relationship or maybe she was completely wasted. Maybe, she is just really, truly that dumb. Because the things she posted were NOT ok. Not only did she choose to slam him, but to add in his momma and his sisters? WHAT was she thinking? 

Of course, as soon as I saw it, I  had to call my friend and tell her. And I wasn't the only one who saw that crap and called her. Making that call, was a no brainer, for me. I felt I owed it to my friend, to make sure she knew the truth of how this person really felt about her family. I lost any and all respect I had for her, the minute she posted that lunacy online. I guess she lost any and all respect she had for me, when I made that call.

So, I have to ask, what would you have done? Would you have made that call, immediately alerting your friend, or would you have minded your own business, and stayed out of it? Maybe you would have waited, just to see how it all panned out?  Let me know, I'm curious which of  you would have been "unfriended" too.

27 comments:

  1. You did the right thing - no question!

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    1. Seriously hurt for my girlfriend, because what was posted about her and her fam, was total BS. She is one of the best people I have ever met, and a pleasure to know.

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  2. I would love a friend like you. If someone was saying crap about me and my family, I'd want someone to tell me. That this other person unfriended you over it proves what a jerk they are. You totally did the right thing.

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    1. T/Y so much Clare. It means a lot. I'm still really hurt for my girlfriend, like I said to Kyra above. And I would absolutely want someone to tell me, if a person was slamming my fam like that.

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  3. No doubt about it, you did the right thing. If I was in that position, I would want to know. Also... why does everyone air their dirty laundry on Facebook? I will never understand this. That usually leads ME to be the one unfriending people. I don't want to see that junk.

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    1. Thanks for the comment and vote of support! My loyalty obviously lies with my girlfriend and her son. I've known him since he was a kid. I'm not gonna sit around and let someone spew crap about people I love without saying something. Cripes!

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  4. I've heard some people's facebook accounts have been getting hijacked lately. Intruders are posting nasty things on your friends walls and it looks like its coming from you, when really it isn't. Since this person "unfriended" you, it's probably legit, and you did the right thing. I always hesitate, though, when something looks suspicious, and hope there is some kind of misunderstanding.

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    1. Oh- how badly do I wish that were the case!! Unfortunately, when confronted, she took full responsibility for it, and even went so far as to say, "I'm entitled to my own opinion." That did me in. I don't think there's any way she can come back from that. SO disappointed in her.

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  5. You did the right thing. I would have unfriended her as soon as she thought Facebook was a way to vent her frustrations like an eight year old. That is one of a million reasons why I got rid of it. Now, I don't have to worry about being unfriended, or reading stupid shit about my friends' kids I don't care to know. I don't care if Johnny shit outside and you think it's cute. I really, really don't. haha

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    1. LOL! That's so funny. I usually scroll through a lot of crap I don't want to read. But I do love to see pics and stuff of all my CA friends, I don't get to see everyday.

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  6. I might've waited, as I don't like being the bearer of bad news or one to stir up controversy. But I will defend my friends and stuff like that is so classless. I would've unfriended that person in a heartbeat as well.

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    1. I don't usually like to stir up trouble either, except when I post stuff like this on my blog. Ha! But most of my friends don't read or even know this blog exists. And I was really, really mad/hurt for my friend.

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  7. Whether I waited or called right away would probably depend on how close I was to his mom. But, as you said, you weren't the only one who called. These things are never kept secret, she should have known it would get back to the people she insulted. To unfriend you for that seems ridiculous. She's the one who made it public knowledge that she is bitchy and immature.

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    1. Rach-I've been best friends with his mother for years. I've known her son and daughters since they were young (about three years old).

      It really upset me on a lot of levels, because before his girlfriend "vented" on FB, I liked her very much. Boy did I misjudge her! She showed her true colors with what she wrote..it was really, really bad. And completely unjustified. It hurt my friend a lot, which in turn, hurt me. I take it very personal when one of my friends gets attacked like that. I am glad however, her true colors came out and my friend's son at least knows what he's truly dealing with now.

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    2. Yeah, I'd have definitely called up my best friend right away! Facebook is an odd thing. People get bold and post stupid things. Like you said, it's good that he found out her true colors now.

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  8. You totally did the right thing.
    And don't worry about unfriending... happens to me all the time for no other reason than I'm a total bitch. heheheheh

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    1. You are too funny!

      Normally, I really do try and stay out of the middle of things, but this was totally uncalled for. I guess I'm just miffed that I didn't get to "unfriend" her first! LOL

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  9. You absolutely did the right thing -- and you did it the right way: privately by phone instead of publicly, via Facebook.

    That "unfriendship" is a badge of honor, because this person obviously has a strange idea of what "friendship" means.

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    1. Thanks so much Dianne! I appreciate all the support. I am actually glad the truth about her real feelings came out. Of course, I wish it wasn't in such a public way, but at least now we know.

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  10. Of course I would have told my friend. How unfair for that info to be out there for everyone else to see, with her not knowing about it. And who cares about the 'unfriender'! It is great you are rid of her.

    I can't believe the stuff that people will post on Facebook and the fights they will have. I never know if they forget that tons of people can read that, or if it makes them feel important somehow. Which is really silly, because they end up looking like foolish children.

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    1. I try very hard not to post anything on FB (even pictures) without permission from my friends. I hate that someone else can post a very unflattering picture, and then "tag" you in it. That's just wrong!

      I usually don't read posts that slam someone else, but this just caught my eye and attention. And I wasn't the only one. We have other mutual friends that went ballistic when they saw it too.

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  11. You absolutely did the right thing. I continue to be amazed by the people who don't use social media responsibly.

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    1. Thank you so much Donna. And I appreciate your comment very much.

      I always make sure I don't post anything that would ever hurt someone else, either here on my blog or on FB. I guess some people don't think past the present, to realize there might be consequences!

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  12. I'm sorry this experience happened to you. Some ppl are just childish unfortunately. And I agree you did the right thing :)

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    1. Hey Victoria! I love seeing your smile up on my comments. I love that new picture of you.

      Yep- this move just showed how childish and mean-spirited she truly is. Again, I am thankful in a way the truth came out, but I wish it was just in a VERY non-public forum/way.

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  13. I would have done the same thing! Who knows what goes through people's heads when they post on Facebook. I'm glad your friend had several people who cared enough to let her know what was happening.

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    1. HI Annalisa- I seriously think she lost her mind that day. I have no idea what the heck she was thinking. I'm so very disappointed in her :(

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