I've met a lot of people in my life. Some I don't ever want to encounter again. Others, after meeting them once, I could never live without. This blog is about them.
Did you ever meet someone and instantly feel a connection? I'm not talking about a Match.com moment, there's nothing romantic going on here, at all. (Although I do think it's possible to recognize who you are going to marry in an instant. Most people say they knew the minute they laid eyes on their partner. The Husband says he knew immediately, with me. I, of course, needed a bit more convincing...muahhh!! BTW, I met The Husband on a blind date, set up by a mutual friend, which is a hilarious story in itself, but I will blog about that another time, because, as usual, I digress...) No, what I'm talking about is how you see something of yourself, reflected back at you, in each other. Something that feels familiar and comfortable, even though you just met. And then you know. Your life must, from now on, have them in it! You've made a forever friend.
This has happened to me on several occasions. After friending me, I will never leave you. I'm not talking about the people who I "friend" on FB, or your acquaintance, surface-type kind of friendships. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to friend people on FB and have them friend me, but there are people you like, and those you may not feel comfortable enough with to move 'em into your inner circle, right off the bat. (Or some turn into psychos/stalkers/creeps which has also happened, unfortunately, to me.) What I'm talking about is different. I'm talking about people who were close to me, that maybe moved away, or we once worked together and now we've lost touch, but that doesn't mean I will EVER forget you. On the contrary, you will always be with me. I carry the people that have touched my life in my heart, forever. Once I move you into my inner circle, those friendships, last. I have had the same friends for YEARS. Like 20 plus years. Some, even 30 plus years!
For instance, I've been friends with my BFF Rochelle, since we were five years old. That means we have been friends for 34 years. Although, I remember the day I met her like it was yesterday. It's actually a huge joke between us because the first time she saw me, I was such a disaster, she thought I was a BOY!! I was wearing overalls smeared with dirt, my face was filthy and my hair was equally pathetic, and cut very short. Her first words to me were,
ROCH: "Um, what are you?"
ROCH: "What are you? A boy or a girl?"
Me, indignant: "I'm a GIRL!!"
ROCH: "Cool, let's play."
Although I moved to NJ and she stayed in CA, we are still best friends. When we call or visit it's like no time has passed between us, at all. I know she will always be a part of my life, and I hers. TO this day, no one else knows me better. She is the first one to call me out on my crap. (And, the only one I let get away with it!) But, when tragedy strikes, just the sound of her voice soothes me. She always knows what to say to help me pull it together. I have no doubt, our meeting, all those years ago, was no coincidence. I knew from the moment she looked at me, besides seeing an awesome candidate for her first makeover, see saw through all my flaws and accepted me, even as flat-out busted as I was. And I knew, when I looked at her, I was seeing no ordinary girl. I was seeing someone, amazing, and I wanted to be a part of her life. Forever.
There are other people who have come roaring into my life, and others who have crept up a bit more subtlety. I Thank God for every one of them. I often joke around and comment on the diversity of my friends, but that's what makes them so special to me. I love my goths, preppies, pastors, gays, young, old, Asians, blonds, plastic fantastics, Africans, vegans, giants, smurfs and so on. You know who you are. I LOVE every last one of you, so much. Because as diverse as my friends are, they have this in common: all of them have touched my heart and my life and made it better. They make me better!
Today is my friend Matt's birthday. I met him at an engagement party a few years ago and I swear I absolutely LOVED AND ADORED HIM, at first sight!! Not just because he is a young, tall, blond, gorgeous model, which he totally is, but because he is one of those people I met once and right away felt like I had known forever.. Matty just felt so familiar to me, immediately. We share a love of books, music, movies, writing, Australian men..bah ha ha. Matt's eyes shine with such light and life, his happiness is contagious. I swear that boy just oozes warmth and fun and is an absolute joy to be around. He is truly one of a kind and I know no matter what he decides to do in life, he will be successful. He is one of the most amazing people I have ever encountered. As I said before, I don't believe in coincidences, I am sure the Lord placed him in my life for a purpose. And there he will stay. As odd as one would think our friendship is, (him being a young handsome grand boulevardier, and me, being an old, tired, married, mother of three, I don't care) Because he will always have my prayers, support and a place in my heart, forever.
I urge you to keep your options open. Don't allow prejudices to color your point of view. Never limit yourself on who you think should or shouldn't be part of your life based on age, gender or political affiliations or more importantly, WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!! If you do, you will be missing out on some of the best opportunities for growth and a chance to enrich your life!!
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- In case any of my friends or family members actually read this Blog, please consider all Names, Characters, Places and Incidents to be the product of the author's imagination and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, events or locales are entirely COINCIDENTAL...Muaaah!! Now, really, about me: I bring the crazy wherever I go, so I've been told...I make fun of myself more than anyone else ever could. I hate: the awkward silence in elevators, watches with no numbers, picky eaters, Cancer and legalism. I love: coffee, stalking Hugh Jackman, my Spanx, COMMENTS, sarcasm and writing: Middle Grade, NA, YA Paranormal and Urban Fantasy.